Love & SexA Crisis of Feminist Conscience?

4 comments | December 14th, 2011

50s chestist

(story submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)

What happens when what we want conflicts with who we think we are?  Here's her story:

I married my husband because he was pro-choice, a feminist, wasn't going to "save" me or any other damsels in distress.

I work hard, and take care of my family, but sometimes I wish someone else would take care of me. {end story}

We hear stories like this a lot.  Women who are strong, proud, in control, certain - and yet find themselves wanting to be taken care of emotionally, or "controlled" sexually, or to not be asked what they want all the time.

For some, it strikes at the heart of their feminist sense of self.  To us, here @OOC HQ, we think it makes all the sense in world and is a totally human (not gender specific) emotion.  Who wants to be strong all the time?  Who doesn't want to be taken care of some of the time?  To us, doesn't matter how strong you are...sometimes it's just nice to be coddled, spooned, and maybe even told what to do and how to do it.  What do ...

#lifestagesRevoking My Own Feminist Card

9 comments | October 31st, 2011

new chestist

(story submitted by Peva, a Chestist)

Message Body:

I thought I was a modern woman of the twenty-first century, but lately I'm starting to question that.

Ironing my husband's shirts? Check.

Doing my darnedest to make sure I've got a hot dinner waiting for him? Check.

Moving to a new city and state for his job and redefining my career? Check.

I love caring for him and love the life we've created, but sometimes I wonder how I'll find my own ideal balance between playing wife and being my own woman. {end story}.

Ah, life.  Sometimes even when it's good it forces us to make compromises and choose between a and b.  Actually, often times it does.  Whether you're married or not, you ever find yourself being pulled in two directions...torn between what you're doing, want to do - and maybe even what you thought you'd always do or be?