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#bodiesI’d rather my daughter smoke weed than read Seventeen

55 comments | April 2nd, 2013

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(submitted by seth@OOC) We originally posted this in May of 2011.  While the specificity of Ann's hypocricy has since passed, we think the breadth of Seventeen's hypocrisy continues.  Be who you are - but don't pretend to be something else. Our daughter's a year older...but nothing has changed enough to cause us to change our title, premise, nor belief. (5.3.12. and again on 4.2.13) This is Ann Shoket, Seventeen magazine's editor.  I hear she's very nice. But I also think this picture, which is (note: it was) her twitter profile pic, is a ridunkulous display of hypocrisy and moral convenience.  I don't think you get to bitchslap the pressure to be perfect in a profile pic AT THE SAME TIME you're yelling "PERFECT HAIR all summer" on your magazine's cover, and promoting a "bonus mag" that screams: "BODY", "Makeover"; Flat Abs!  A great butt!  Amazing legs! Yummy Recipes!".  That's.  Just.  Not.  Cool. Maybe it's just me, but you just shouldn't get to position yourself as part of the solution when you're still an on-going part of the problem. And Seventeen's a part of the problem.  In my opinion, they're a big part of ...

#chestismsDefine happiness. What Do You Need to Be Happy?

16 comments | December 6th, 2012

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Nope, there's no article, no story - just the question in the headline. Let's think about it...what do we (that means you too) need in our lives to be happy?  What do we WANT in our lives to be happy? Deep stuff, right?!  But what question could we ask ourselves where the answer could be more important, more essential, more fundamentally our happiest version of ourselves? Throw down, Chestists, throw down.

Disappointment. #Discuss.

15 comments | September 12th, 2012

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(submitted by OOC)

Disappointment's such a buzzkill.  You can quote us on that.  And disappointments can be so varied...a bad Saturday night that started with high hopes, a job we didn't get, a relationship that didn't work out, a friend who wasn't, another month without getting pregnant when you want to, a parent who didn't show up at our game.  It's a long list of possibilities, and sometimes we're even the cause of them not just the victim. What - and who - does the word make you think of?  We've all had them, let's release them and get them off our chests.  What do you say, you with us??

#chestismsBe, By Milton Berle

7 comments | August 26th, 2012

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(by FMB and Milton Berle)

"I'd rather be a could-be if I cannot be an are; because a could-be is a may be who is reaching for a star. I'd rather be a has-been than a might-have-been, by far; for a might have-been has never been, but a has was once an are." ~ Milton Berle

What would you rather be?

#bodiesOut of Control

9 comments | July 23rd, 2012

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(by Anonymous, a Chestist)

You ever make one decision only to worry that the decision you made has consequences you hadn't necessarily considered to start?  She has and here's her story:

"Don’t even get me started on fears concerning my ability to conceive! I was on the pill for 11 years straight before finally deciding to stop opening that little pink pack on a daily basis, and I’ ve read one too many articles about the effects of birth control on one's body. I’ m not ready to have a kid yet, but I worry all the time about whether or not I will be able to do it when I am."  {end story}

Control's a funny thing.  Sometimes we think we have it only to find out maybe we don't have quite as much as we'd thought - or hoped. Are there things-which-you-cannot-control that are stressing you out?  Why?  #discuss.

 

#lifestagesComfortable Shoes

10 comments | June 25th, 2012

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(submitted Anonymously, by a Chestist, a FMB rewind)

How do you get what you want - when you don't know what it is?  That's the question we hear in this story sent in anonymously, by a Chestist.  Read on:

"I'm 33, and not that long ago, I realized I've spent my life in pursuit of "success" without having ever really considered what being "successful" actually means to me.  It's like I've been operating on auto-pilot, chasing good grades, and a good college and a good job, and a good boyfriend, and then a better job, and a husband, and kids, and lots of money and a retirement with lots of time totravel and comfortable shoes to travel in.  It's like everything's been laid out in this linear way and I just keep pushing forward without looking around me.  I don't want to do that anymore, but the problem is I don't know what I want to do.  I'm almost as afraid to get off this path as I am to stay on it." [end of story]

What about you, dear readers?  You pretty clear about what you ...

#bodiesIn The Mind’s Eye

9 comments | May 17th, 2012

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(submitted by Chan, a Chestist, an OOC rewwind)

Sometimes what we think we see and what we think others see may not be the same thing.  Sometimes that's good; sometimes it sucks.  Here's what one reader sent us:

"I have this... thing where, in my mind's eye, I'm thinner than I actually am.  Catching a glimpse of myself in the mirror can be devastating.  It's not that I don't know I'm overweight: I just don't *see* myself that way, so when it's shoved in my face, it's startling to say the least." [end of story.]

Does anyone else have this mind's-eye glitch? What's the difference - if any - between what you see in the mirror and what's in your mind's eye?

#lifestagesI Feel Inadequate

9 comments | May 7th, 2012

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(submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)

I...don't know what I'm doing. I feel stupid and inadequate because everyone else seems to know who they are and what they want and I'm just not confident enough in myself to do the same.

I feel like a failure; a failure who sits on her computer all day watching others live their wonderful lives and can only think 'I can do that' but doesn't have the balls to do it. {end story}

You ever felt like you're on the outside looking in?

#chestismsNo Fear

6 comments | April 26th, 2012

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Well that takes a load off.  Why do we strive for perfection when we know it's not really possible to get there?

#bodiesLose The Cape

7 comments | April 5th, 2012

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"It sucks.  Lots of pressure is put on girls to be pretty in the world's eyes, and still get good grades, and be popular and have an awesome job, and do extra-curricular activities, and spend loads of time with their families at home." 

- Anonymous 12th Grade Girl, "The Supergirl Syndrome"

Feeling pressure to be a Supergirl? 

It sucks at any age. 

Why do you feel it?  What's the hardest part?

Happy HatingThe Space Between Extremes

7 comments | March 28th, 2012

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(story submitted by R.T., a Chestist)

Balance seems like happiness.  It's one of those things so many of us strive for and too few of us find and hold on to.  Here's her story:

There are times when I think there's nothing I can't do.  There are times when I think I can't do anything.  I feel like my life is a pendulum swinging between emotional extremes.  I don't mean to make it sound like I've got BPD or anything, it's just that I feel like things are always going right or always going wrong and I just wish I could find and feel some balance.  I don't mind extremes, not the highs or the lows. I just wish I could spend some time in the middle for a while.  {end story}

What about you...you ever find yourself bouncing between polarities and that, like R.T., everything's either one way or another?  How do you bring yourself back to centered when the pendulum is swinging to and fro?  Remember, you can change her story if you share yours.  XO

 

#chestismsAcceptance

7 comments | March 27th, 2012

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Ok, so we said "acceptance" and you thought...what?  You ever not been accepted or maybe been the one who didn't (or doesn't) do the accepting?  How'd that feel?  How'd it shape who you are and how you feel today?  We say accepting is cool.  Let's do more of it - especially when it comes to accepting ourselves.  And others too.  And that which we can not change....

Love & SexScared to Leave

16 comments | March 13th, 2012

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(story submitted anonymously, by a 22 year-old Chestist)

We couldn't help but think of that Jack Nicholson line "you can't handle the truth."  Sometimes the truth is hard to handle.  Here's hers:

My story: I think my relationship is over and I'm too scared to leave. [end story.]

12 words, and a whole big story.  Ever been in her shoes, Chestists?  Knowing or at least being pretty sure something's over...a relationship, a friendship, a job...but being too scared to leave because of what may or may not be on the other side?  What was it?  What'd you do?  Sounds like sister could use some advice, so please, share...

#chestismsBreak The Mold, a Chestism

6 comments | March 12th, 2012

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(by OOC)

"We need role models who are going to break the mold." ~  Carly Simon

Who's your role model?  Is s/he a mold breaker?  Are you?

#thecumulativeeffectSmile When Happy

5 comments | March 5th, 2012

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(story submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)

We pretty much love this, sent in by one of you. Here's what she's thinking about "hi, how are you?"

Sometimes I think politeness has ruined honesty.

It's expected that you ask someone how they're doing whether or not you care and that they say "fine, thanks" whether or not they are. It doesn't mean much when someone says "have a nice day," because in the service world, it's basically a verbal twitch. Also, not to hate on one of my all time favorite things, but smiling (not the real ones) is getting a little out of hand. I think all this fake-happy, fake-fine, fake-consideration is making people feel lonely and get in the practice of lying to people.

I think that if we were all honest and just stopped using ridiculous words like "fine" altogether, smiled when happy, and asked questions when curious, we'd all feel a lot more at home in the world.  

You find yourself hiding yourself behind false platitudes and politeness?  Is it hiding or is it just being part of society?  Do you think we'd (you'd) feel ...

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