#bodiesI’d rather my daughter smoke weed than read Seventeen

56 comments | April 2nd, 2013


(submitted by seth@OOC) We originally posted this in May of 2011.  While the specificity of Ann's hypocricy has since passed, we think the breadth of Seventeen's hypocrisy continues.  Be who you are - but don't pretend to be something else. Our daughter's a year older...but nothing has changed enough to cause us to change our title, premise, nor belief. (5.3.12. and again on 4.2.13) This is Ann Shoket, Seventeen magazine's editor.  I hear she's very nice. But I also think this picture, which is (note: it was) her twitter profile pic, is a ridunkulous display of hypocrisy and moral convenience.  I don't think you get to bitchslap the pressure to be perfect in a profile pic AT THE SAME TIME you're yelling "PERFECT HAIR all summer" on your magazine's cover, and promoting a "bonus mag" that screams: "BODY", "Makeover"; Flat Abs!  A great butt!  Amazing legs! Yummy Recipes!".  That's.  Just.  Not.  Cool. Maybe it's just me, but you just shouldn't get to position yourself as part of the solution when you're still an on-going part of the problem. And Seventeen's a part of the problem.  In my opinion, they're a big part of ...

The Fierce Urgency Of NOW

11 comments | January 18th, 2013

King and Son Walking Up House Steps

By Seth Matlins (We first posted this piece on Father's Day 2011.  In honor of MLK Day, we're reposting it now.)  A father walks down the path to his house with his son.  A simple and quiet moment captured, that stands in relatively stark contrast to the images of MLK we all know so well. Dr. King was a parent; sometimes we can forget that about him. A person and a parent who looked at the world and knew he needed to stand up and speak up for change, for justice, and for truth. For a lot of people.  For his children. And Dr. King didn't just have a dream, he had a timetable.  The changes he spoke for, dreamed of, and fought to create, needed to happen "now".  He didn't just urge us to end discrimination and economic injustice, he urged our embrace of "the fierce urgency" of the moment. As we look at this picture of Dr. King walking up the steps to his home with his baby boy, we're reminded that life changes quickly and sometimes irrevocably, sometimes ...

Disappointment. #Discuss.

15 comments | September 12th, 2012


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Disappointment's such a buzzkill.  You can quote us on that.  And disappointments can be so varied...a bad Saturday night that started with high hopes, a job we didn't get, a relationship that didn't work out, a friend who wasn't, another month without getting pregnant when you want to, a parent who didn't show up at our game.  It's a long list of possibilities, and sometimes we're even the cause of them not just the victim. What - and who - does the word make you think of?  We've all had them, let's release them and get them off our chests.  What do you say, you with us??

#chestismsZoe Saldana on Happiness

4 comments | August 4th, 2012


(By FMB)

"Happiness is nothing but temporary moments here and there - and I love those. But I would be bored out of my mind if I were happy all the time." ~ Zoe Saldana

What do you think?  Would being happy all the time be boring?  Do you need "downs" to feel the "ups"? #Discuss

#bodiesOut of Control

9 comments | July 23rd, 2012

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(by Anonymous, a Chestist)

You ever make one decision only to worry that the decision you made has consequences you hadn't necessarily considered to start?  She has and here's her story:

"Don’t even get me started on fears concerning my ability to conceive! I was on the pill for 11 years straight before finally deciding to stop opening that little pink pack on a daily basis, and I’ ve read one too many articles about the effects of birth control on one's body. I’ m not ready to have a kid yet, but I worry all the time about whether or not I will be able to do it when I am."  {end story}

Control's a funny thing.  Sometimes we think we have it only to find out maybe we don't have quite as much as we'd thought - or hoped. Are there things-which-you-cannot-control that are stressing you out?  Why?  #discuss.


#chestismsLet’s Talk Dirty

10 comments | June 13th, 2012

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(by FMB)

Name one sexual inhibition; maybe something you've always wondered about but have been too self-conscious to do.  It might just be leaving the lights on.  But whatever it is, you can tell us. (Remember, you can talk anonymously.)

#bodiesForever Young

11 comments | April 17th, 2012

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"The other day a patient of mine asked what I thought about her daughter's desire to get Botox.  Her daughter is 16."  - Too Young To Look Old?  Dealing With the Fear of Aging, Vivian Diller, Ph.D for The Huffington Post

Is saying "you're getting older" the same as saying "you're getting uglier"?  Why are we afraid of aging?  What will you do to look younger as you grow older?  Does aging, or the thought of it, hate on your happy?  You can tell us.


8 comments | April 12th, 2012


(An OOC Rewind)

Song lyrics can really just sum everything up so succinctly sometimes. How about this one from Of Montreal:   "If I treated someone else like the way I treat myself, I'd be in jail."  How's that for a big helping of insight?   What crime(s) against yourself would you be sent to jail for?




8 comments | April 5th, 2012

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(submitted Anonymously, by a Chestist)

"I’ve had insomnia for the past three nights. I called a friend, she was stressed to the nth degree and said she's had insomnia for weeks. None of us are sleeping, a lot of us are on ambien, xanax – Why can’t we sleep better?" {end story}

Tell us, what keeps you up all night and stresses you to the nth degree?  (P.S. we hope nothing, and that you slept really well.  But in case...)



#bodiesLose The Cape

7 comments | April 5th, 2012

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"It sucks.  Lots of pressure is put on girls to be pretty in the world's eyes, and still get good grades, and be popular and have an awesome job, and do extra-curricular activities, and spend loads of time with their families at home." 

- Anonymous 12th Grade Girl, "The Supergirl Syndrome"

Feeling pressure to be a Supergirl? 

It sucks at any age. 

Why do you feel it?  What's the hardest part?

#thecumulativeeffectHow Do You Deal With Stress?

10 comments | April 4th, 2012


Stress has got to be among the bigger haters on anyone's happy. 

No matter its cause, family, finance, love, work, something good might happen and you're waiting to see if it will, school, health...the list is as long and varied as the lives we lead.  Figuring out how to productively deal with stress can make a big difference in the quality of our lives and how happy we are.

So, how do you deal with it?  What signs does your body/mind send you that stress is running amok inside?  Getting it off our chests seems a fine place to start (get it?).  Stress.  #discuss.

#chestismsGandhi Says

2 comments | March 16th, 2012

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"A 'No' uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a 'Yes' merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble."

~ Mohandas Gandhi

You ever say "yes" just to please?  (nope, we never have.) Why?


#chestismsBreak The Mold, a Chestism

6 comments | March 12th, 2012

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(by OOC)

"We need role models who are going to break the mold." ~  Carly Simon

Who's your role model?  Is s/he a mold breaker?  Are you?

#lifestagesWhy Not Happier

4 comments | March 12th, 2012

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(story submitted anonymously, by a 26 yo Chestist)

When I take the time to look at my life in an objective and considered way, I know I have most everything anyone could want.  I have a boy I love and who loves me, a job that pays me well and keeps me interested, family and friends that support me without indulging me.

If everything's so good why do I feel so bad?  Why am I not happier?  {end story}

Sometimes there can be a big disconnect between what we have and how we feel about it.  Is there in your world?  When you stop and look at what you have - and maybe even what you don't yet - how's it make you feel?  What's great?  What's missing?  Let's #discuss.

Let Your Hair Down

7 comments | March 9th, 2012

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(submitted Anymously by a Chestist: posted 1.13.11 and again today)

Here's a wish from one of you to all of you:

"Sometimes, I wish women of all ethnic backgrounds would just let their hair down and like their bodies for once. Stop staring in the mirror, stop thinking of yourself as an object... just get out there and take up space." {end story}

What do you think?  Can you do it?  If not, why not?  If so, ready, set, go.