#bodiesI Am Beautiful

11 comments | September 13th, 2011

new chestist

(story submitted Anonymously, by a Chestist)

My Message: 5' 9". 118 pounds. fat gut? you wish. you can't break me down, nothing you say can hurt me. get a life. i am beautiful, stop telling me otherwise.{end story}


We love getting stories of confidence like this.  What about you?  What do you wish people would stop telling you otherwise? Say it loud, say it proud.  (Say it here.)



13 comments | September 13th, 2011


(story by Melanie Reno, A Chestist)

Hi my name is Melanie Reno and I have Irritable Bowel Syndrome. (Hi Melanie!)


Ever since I can remember, my bowels have been f@#$ing pissed! I’ve had ulcers, acid reflux, and daily diarrhea…


The most recent addition to the roster is chronic hemorrhoids. A lot of women get them after pushing out babies. I got them from just pushing out number twos.


As a kid, I did a lot of shitting in bushes. Who am I kidding; I crapped in an alley behind a Mattress Super Store last month.


Sorry, but they don’t call I.B.S. - Irritable Bowel Syndrome - for nothing!


I grew up in a large community of tract housing. My dad was a big time real estate agent – he even had his own bus bench. The secret behind his success though, was paying my sister and me $0.05 per house to pass out his Century 21 scratch pads. My dad would drop us off many cul-de-sacs away and come back in an hour or so.


Inevitably, as soon as he drove away, my stomach started to rumble. It was likely caused by the anxiety of ...

#bodiesDisease Doesn’t Discriminate, People Do

8 comments | September 10th, 2011

new chestist

(story submitted anonymously, by a 34 year-old Chestist)

My Message: I'm so sick of complete strangers blaming me for my having Type 2 diabetes. I've never been overweight, I don't eat junk, and I've no choice but to be active (with two kids running around all the time).


The media bears the brunt of my resent in this because they over-sensationalize any bogus study (bogus because no doctor on this planet knows why people get diabetes) related to the so-called "obesity epidemic;" now anyone in the general public thinks they're a f*@king expert with a medical degree. I've heard things like, "That's what you get for being a couch potato" and "You should've taken better care of yourself and eaten real food." Really? You don't hear this kind of garbage being hurled toward people with cancer or any other disorder, but it's somehow acceptable to say cruel and incredibly ignorant things to a diabetic?


I've also heard, "My son is diabetic, but it isn't the kind you get from being fat." This statement implies that there is a "good" kind of diabetes (Type 1) vs. a "bad" diabetes (Type 2)-- ...

#bodiesJocks v. Athletes

6 comments | September 9th, 2011

new chestist

(story submitted by Dee, a 48 year-old Chestist)

My Message: As an educator and a mother of 2 teenagers, I have seen how the media can affect not only our youth, but their parents, as well.


There's been a lot of focus on the media affects to girls and young women, but boys and young men are equally affected. We are raising boys to believe that their self-worth comes from the bulk of the muscles on their bodies and the number of sports they play. I have seen young men forget that being an "athlete" is very different than being a "jock."


Unfortunately, parents have contributed to raising more "jocks" than "athletes." You may ask what the difference is between the two. Athletes respect who they are as individuals, understand that they are role models for younger boys and the sport they play should not define who they are. Athletes care as much about their education as they do about working out in a healthy manner.


They believe in hard work, not using steroids or other substances to cheat the process of hard work. Ahtletes have a passion for ...

#bodiesUm, Mr. Valentino, A Word Please

10 comments | September 7th, 2011

new chestist

(story by submitted by Susan, a 41 year-old Chestist)

My Message: why do designers think most women have no chest??? I hate that I can never find shirts that button and that don't gap when I try to button them!!!  [end story.]


Alright, ladies...fashion, is it your body's friend or foe?  Do you use it to hide or show-off your beauty?  Does it help or hate on your happy?  On 3, #discuss.  1, 2,3...

#bodiesGet Noticed

7 comments | September 7th, 2011

new chestist

(story submitted anonymously, by a 17 year-old Chestist)

My Message: I FUCKING HATE ACNE. I didn't go to school today because of a breakout.


My self esteem is low. I hate hanging out with you because you are too pretty. You get all of the attention. I hate that you are a good friend because it makes me feel like i have to hang out with you.....i have fun with you. i just want to get noticed too.[end of story.]


No matter how old you are, we bet there are parts of this you can relate to.  We know we can.  We've been getting a lot of stories from you guys lately revolving around the theme of competing with the ones we love or like or think we like, or just pretend to like.  Sometimes.


So what about you?  Have you ever stayed home from school or a meeting or a date or whatever because you broke out, or had a BHD, or just couldn't deal with the difference between how you felt you looked and how you wanted to look?  Let's show one of our younger Chestists some love and share ...

#bodiesAsk A Woman Who Knows

16 comments | September 1st, 2011

new chestist

(story submitted anonymously, by a 34 year-old Chestist)

My Message: When ever I see stories about young women even girls wanting or getting breast enlargements thinking it will somehow improve their life, I think, why do they never talk to the women who grew up with large breasts. Their response might suprise them.


I round up my height to 5'2' and currently wear a 32 DD. I've been wearing a bra since the 3rd grade. As a young girl I was automatically considered a slut, because apprently if you have large breasts it must be true. So I tried to hide it with large shirts.  To this day I still feel uncomfortable wearing tight shirts. Not to mention it's not easy to find a reasonably priced bra that is a 32 DD. You can't just go into Target.


And chances are its not going to be "sexy" looking at least if your goal is to have them remain in your bra when you bend over to tie your shoe. Large breasts tend to prevent you from wearing certain clothes--button up shirts, no way; strapless, you'll do a lot of ...

#lifestagesToday, brought to you by the word: Embarrassed

13 comments | August 31st, 2011


We've all been there, haven't we?  Um, it's not just us...is it?  That would be so embarrassing.


Ok, you get it (even if it wasn't very funny).  Let's talk embarrassment.  When were you, where were you, what happened?  Does it still hate on your happy and make you cringe or are you over it and can laugh like everyone else did?


Us, there was this one time at band camp....

#bodiesSay Cheese

50 comments | August 30th, 2011


(story by the amazing @MIr from Woulda Coulda Shoulda.com)

A few years back, my mother gave me my baby book. Inside I found twelve years of school pictures, and with them I could make a virtual flip book to page through my formative years. I could watch my hair go from short to long and back again. I could watch my wide, happy smile go from baby teeth to a jumbled mixture of permanent and temporary teeth and then... my smile disappeared for a while. It returns---post-orthodontia---at the end of high school. But even then, it's different.

It's not just that my teeth are straight in the later photos, either. You can see that I don't smile as widely or easily as I used to. The unselfconscious glee from my early days is just gone.

There's an argument to be made that very few of us retain our happy-go-lucky "oh yay, a camera! LOOK AT ME!" joy past kindergarten. Age and maturity mellow and dilute our enthusiasm, of course. But for me it wasn't just a getting-older thing. It was a growing awareness of my teeth and how prominent they were.

"Don't ...

#bodiesToo Young

9 comments | August 29th, 2011

new chestist

(story submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)

My 11 year old daughter asked me for an underwire bra the other day! She's starting to develop and wears cute, appropriate little bras that provide some coverage.


I explained that underwire (like a cellphone) is a need, not a want. When the need is there, I will review it and make the decision. Just because your friends all have the thing, doesn't mean you have to have it too.


Of course, I remember having the same discussion with my mom. Turns out, I STILL don't need underwire! I've seen some "teen" bras that look like something from the old Fredrick's catalog. [end of story.]


You ever have to wrestle with your mom (or dad) about wearing something you thought was the look - which they didn't see the same way?  You ever have the experience of not letting your kid wear something they wanted to because you didn't think it was appropriate for the age or occassion?  Where do you/will you draw the line?  Our battles with fashion are hard enough when they're just us against our clothes.  Total buzzkill when kids and ...


16 comments | August 27th, 2011


(story by OOC via the Tennessean)

We know a thing or 2 about infertility here @OOC HQ.  Sometimes it seems as if all but a few of the couples we know who are trying to have babies, or who have recently had them, have dealt with this somehow.


According to this recent story as well as one in the WSJ, women are waiting longer and getting older before seeking help and/or treatment for fertility issues.  Perhaps not suprisingly, waiting longer and getting older do nothing to help a woman's chances of getting pregnant and having a baby.  The article continues:


"Some women are waiting because they haven’t found “Mr. Right” and they don’t want to be single parents. And others, who are married, are getting married at an older age (a sign of the times) and are not giving much thought to the fact that women who get married in their mid- to late 30s have much less time to reproduce than women who get married in their 20s...


A woman in her 40s has only a 5 percent chance of getting pregnant each month. That means out of every 100 women in ...

#bodiesPretty Saleswomen

10 comments | August 25th, 2011

seriously pretty

(story by OOC via Science Daily)

According to new research from the Journal of Consumer Research (which we're assuming you don't all get) "people who don't feel positive about their appearance are less likely to buy an item they're trying on if they see a good-looking shopper or salesperson wearing the same thing."


We thought this was kind of interesting because, well, because we thought we were all "supposed" to aspire to the images of beauty and "perfection" we're presented with...but maybe that's just online, on TV, the silver screen, in magazine pages etc but not IRL.


What about you, dear Chestists, do you want to see what you're buying on other folks - and if you're feeling bad about you and they're all pretty does it make you want the item or to leave it in the dressing room?  Do you compare yourself to others when you're shopping?  Why (or not)?


(here's the whole story).  Oh, and feel free to check out our shop where all the models are nowhere nearly as beautiful as you.  Here @OOC, we don't sell ads, but we do sell tees.  ...

#bodiesMisery Loves Company?

8 comments | August 24th, 2011


(story by OOC via Fashionista)

Sometimes we think we want what others have only to find out they don't really want it themselves.  Oh life, you can be so mercurial.


Lara Stone, the supermodel who many consider to have "one of the most incredibly perfect bodies on the planet" told Vogue UK that she's not happy with most of her body.


“Like most women, I have days where I feel like today I’m not leaving the house – you know days where you’ve got a spot on your nose or when you’ve just got off a flight, eaten fish and chips and feel really bloated – that one happens a lot to me,” Stone told Vogue UK. “You have to accept yourself though, and accept that there will always be something to worry about. It’s much easier just to accept things.”


So is this a story of "sister, walk a mile in my shoes" or do you feel connection and empathy in what Lara says and feels?  Does it make any of you feel any better about you to know that even those who get paid to create our cultural beauty standards ...


5 comments | August 23rd, 2011


(story submitted by "Bridezilla", a 33 year-old Chestist)

We'd written about weddings last week and then this story came in from a reader.  Best laid pland and all.  Can you relate?


My Message: I wish I wouldn't have gotten a chin implant six months before my wedding. Its been a week and I look like a tranny....I know my fiance is thinking the same thing but trying to be nice and supportive about it.


Now, we've known some beautiful trannys, but seems Bridezilla's not considering herself one.  You ever done something in advance of a big event, a wedding, reunion, Saturday night, that just didn't work out like you'd hoped and wound up hating on your happy?  Do tell....

#bodiesBiological Clock

7 comments | August 23rd, 2011


(story by OOC)

This may surprise some of you, but we've got a lot of friends.  And an increasing number of them (women and men) are hitting milestone birthdays, somewhere between 30  and 50, without kids.


Some want kids yesterday, or years ago.  Some want them now.  Some don't want them at all.  And some, are pretty sure they don't want them but are worried they'll be wrong and, in or 2 instances, worried about what people will think about them. 


Some are thinking about going the single parent route, inseminating, adopting, surrogating.  Others are working the dating sites pretty hard, looking for love online (and we know more than a few who've gotten married to people they've met online.)


Here's what we're wondering.  Is your clock ticking?  Whether you have kids or not, was there an age at which you thought you'd have them...did you?  If you're amongst those who have come to the conclusion that parenting's not for you, are you good with that truth, or do you feel like you'll be judged and/or miss out?


Kids.  Sometimes you're damned if you do and damned if you don't.  What are your feelings ...