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Bitch Media Interviews Peggy Orenstein

comment | December 2nd, 2011

http://su.pr/4aY624, via Bitchmedia.com

#bodiesThe Self-Esteem Act is Dumb

26 comments | December 2nd, 2011

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(submitted by lailainthecity)

We're all about diversity of opinions here @ Camp OOC...even the ones we don't agree with.  Imagine!  That said, there's a lot in Laialinthecity's comments we do agree with.  The first paragraph pretty much entirely.  As for the rest, well, for us, not so much.  But you decide for you, and let us and Laila know what you think. Here's what she does:

The "Self-Esteem Act"? Why do we have to keep lowering the bar for everything, and making it law no less? When I see someone svelte walking down the street, I don't ask them if they're wearing Spanx. When I see someone with a smile that lights up the room, I don't ask them if they're caps. When I see someone with waist length full bodied curly hair, I don't ask if it's a lace-front wig. Because the truth about what they look like when they get up in the morning, doesn't belong to me, it belongs to them. There's plenty of artifice in world, it starts with lip gloss when you're a teenager. So what?

Nobody is perfect, that should be common sense, ...

Love & SexTogether

8 comments | December 2nd, 2011

together

(by OOC via TheGirlProject)

We first bumped into these amazing images of teenaged girls a few months back, all of which can be found in Please Read (If At All Possible): The Girl Project, by Kate Engelbrecht.

Since we both like a good cliche and happen to believe that a picture can actually be worth 1000 words, we'll be featuring a handful of images from the book over the next week.  We're hoping you'll share with us what words (even if not 1000 of them) come to mind...what they make you think of, and how they make you feel.

Our first reactions here @OOC HQ, will serve as the titles for these posts.

To check out more of The Girl Project and Kate's work, please also check out:

http://thegirlprojectblog.blogspot.com/

http://www.pleasereadifatallpossible.blogspot.com/

#bodiesHow Much Do I Weigh Now

8 comments | December 1st, 2011

ona scale

(by OOC via TheGirlProject)

We first bumped into these amazing images of teenaged girls a few months back, all of which can be found in Please Read (If At All Possible): The Girl Project, by Kate Engelbrecht.

Since we both like a good cliche and happen to believe that a picture can actually be worth 1000 words, we'll be featuring a handful of images from the book over the next week.  We're hoping you'll share with us what words (even if not 1000 of them) come to mind...what they make you think of, and how they make you feel.

Our first reactions here @OOC HQ, will serve as the titles for these posts.

To check out more of The Girl Project and Kate's work,

please also check out:

http://thegirlprojectblog.blogspot.com/

http://www.pleasereadifatallpossible.blogspot.com/

Happy HatingIn A Hospital Room

5 comments | November 30th, 2011

chestist black scratch

(story submitted Anonymously, by a 25 yo Chestist) I am sitting in a hospital room with my husband right now. This is day 10. He fell two stories, through the glass pool house roof at his step-mother's house. He wound up with a burst vertebrae. Yesterday was the last of two surgeries he had to have to prevent paralyzation(a miracle it didn't happen btw)and rebuild that part of his spine.

I have barely cried this whole time and have not let him see me do it once so as not to stress him out.

Tonight I wound up sitting on the bathroom floor in his room balling my eyes out for over an hour while he was knocked out from pain killers. The thing that set me off was the nurse telling me there were not any blankets left when I am literally shaking here. {end story}.

The tragedy of falling through a glass pool-house makes this story unusual.  The experience of watching a loved-one struggle is far less unusual, and there are few things that can hate on your happy like it.  Have you ever ...

#lifestagesBecoming A Highly Educated Housewife

3 comments | November 30th, 2011

chestist sad

(story submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)

When we first got this story from one of you, we were so struck by her understanding and insight into herself. We've no clue if she's being unfair to her, as so many of us are to ourselves, but here are her words and her story:

I'm clinically depressed and have been since I was a child. Treatments don't really seem to work. I am unreliable. I can't really control myself. Sometimes I'm nice and generous and productive, but it inevitably lapses into flakiness and sadness and paralysis. Somehow I've gotten into a good doctoral program, but I'm not doing well in it.

I'm graduating this year, and starting to apply for jobs. I don't mention my mental problems, which feels like a great deception. For the jobs I am looking at, no one would hire me if they knew how erratic I am. I literally shouldn't get these jobs. I feel like the only work I am perform reliably is some sort of migrant shift work, or perhaps just NOT work.

I'm increasingly considering becoming a highly educated housewife, except that I can't ...

#lifestagesPutting Away the Claws

16 comments | November 29th, 2011

claws

(story by Mir, from WouldaCouldaShoulda, a chestist)

When I was little, I wanted long, pretty fingernails like my mom's (hers were very long, and always brightly painted). I was sure that they would make me beautiful. But I was kind of a rough and messy kid, and often as not, I had a couple of longish nails and eight ragged ones that were broken or chewed or both.

I wasn't very big, and I wasn't very strong, but at some point---maybe the first time was an accident, even---I learned that sinking my nails into the arms of another kid who was bothering me was a surprisingly effective weapon. All I had to do was grab and dig those sharp nail tips into soft flesh, and whatever problem I'd been having was going to run away crying in very short order.

It didn't take long to figure out that this wasn't a terribly stealthy way to misbehave. When the wails of discontent were countered with, "What happened??" it only took a single, "MIR CLAWED ME!" for my fate to be ...

New Tool Analyzes Photos for Photoshopping

comment | November 28th, 2011

http://su.pr/1fYHyk via Wired

Love & SexThe Tell-Tale Ring

32 comments | November 28th, 2011

Chestist grunge

(story by Clarisse Thorn, a Chestist)

So, I have this ex.  I dated him for a long time, but we haven't really talked in ages.  I suspect that I hurt him pretty bad when he dated; he hurt me pretty bad, too.

I've written about him only a few times.  For instance, I wrote about him when I discussed my history of figuring out how to reach orgasm, because he ... was not a good sexual partner.  He pressured me in a lot of unpleasant sex-related ways.  During one fight, he even shouted at me that he didn't care about my sexual satisfaction.

I know that he was manipulative.  I know that he ignored my needs.  And I know that he hurt me.  But I also believe that he loved me.  I know he understands me deeply, and respects me in a lot of ways.  I know I was important to him, and I know I wasn't always the most reasonable partner myself.

Where is the space for me to reconcile these things?

I once wrote a long post about him that got very different ...

#chestismsSarah Silverman, a Chestism

12 comments | November 28th, 2011

SYT

I don't set out to offend or shock, but I also don't do anything to avoid it.

 

Sarah's a truth speaker.  And funny too.  (And once in a store she said something nice about our baby, so we liked that.) 

What about you, will you avoid speaking your truth if it might offend or shock someone else? 

Does that leave you not speaking it?

 

#lifestagesAt Least He Listens

7 comments | November 28th, 2011

me and a friend

(by OOC via TheGirlProject)

We first bumped into these amazing images of teenaged girls a few months back, all of which can be found in Please Read (If At All Possible): The Girl Project, by Kate Engelbrecht.

Since we both like a good cliche and happen to believe that a picture can actually be worth 1000 words, we'll be featuring a handful of images from the book over the next week.  We're hoping you'll share with us what words (even if not 1000 of them) come to mind...what they make you think of, and how they make you feel.

Our first reactions here @OOC HQ, will serve as the titles for these posts.

To check out more of The Girl Project and Kate's work, please also check out:

http://thegirlprojectblog.blogspot.com/

http://www.pleasereadifatallpossible.blogspot.com/  

#chestismsExercise Your Happy

1 response | November 27th, 2011

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(submitted by OOC - quote by Norman Cousins)

When Did My Tampon Become a Fortune Cookie?

comment | November 25th, 2011

via AdiosBarbie: http://su.pr/1VLHSS

#chestismsHarry Potter, a Thanksgiving Chestism

2 comments | November 25th, 2011

key

Here's but one of the sage pieces of advice the magnificence that's Albus Dumbledore shared with our boy Harry:

"It is our choices Harry, that show who we truly are more than our abilities."

We wish we we spent Thanksgiving with Dumbledore.  Hope you had an amazing one.  XO, OOC

 

 

Alanis on Body Image. Nothing Ironic.

comment | November 24th, 2011

http://su.pr/5VXuAu

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